The thing about humans is that we’re never satisfied.
Oh, we might take a couple minutes after we finish a marathon or get a new job to celebrate and feel good about ourselves — but then, we’re on to the next thing. And the next.
There’s always something else we want. Something else that we are convinced will make us better, more lovable people. Losing (more?) weight. Plastic surgery. A trip somewhere amazing. Enlightenment. Getting published. A relationship.
If we’re lucky, we finally reach a point where we realize that no matter what we do, where we go, who we’re with, or what we achieve — inside you’re the same person you’ve always been, and that is not going to change.
We are who we are.
What if I told you that you are 100% perfect the way you are right now? It’s a radical thought, especially in a society that prides itself on meritocracy. But it’s true.
Does that mean we should give up improving ourselves? That we don’t need to focus on personal growth or solving problems? Not at all.
Only that doing those things aren’t what is going to make us more valuable as humans. And that who you are *right now* represents the sum total of your personal growth and development as a person — and no one can reasonably ask you to do or be anything else.
How *could* you be anything else?
Your value is innate. Your worth is not contingent on what you produce. Your purpose is to be YOU.
It’s hard to accept, I know. Trust me. I KNOW.
When the world is constructed upon hierarchies and ideals that contradict this idea; when you’re told from infancy that you were born sinful and need forgiveness; when the measure that society uses to determine your value is out of reach or impossible simply by virtue of you being the wrong age, shape, color or gender; when you are compared to others and found wanting by the very people who into whose care you were given to teach and nurture you.
I’ve come to accept that who I am is often in conflict with what other people consider valuable. It’s ok.
I have my own values, and I’m living up to them as best I can.
And I’ll tell you something: it feels amazing.
I want that for you, too.